Let’s have some fun, shall we? 😉 And yes, this is all good and fun, because while these things might be a bit annoying, some people do say them because they think they’re helping.
And even when they’re rude, we can’t control what others say… But we can sure get a kick out of it, then ignore every single word! 😂
1. You should write erotica, it’s what sells
This one changes with the seasons. I used to hear “write erotica” all the time. Then it was “write vampire romance.” Or “write about zombies.” Then again, “write erotica” (man, that erotica really sells, doesn’t it??).
Trends come and go, and there are faster, easier ways to make money other than writing.
If I was only after money, I would be an aerospace engineer or something, not an English major 😏 While my goal is to make a living off my writing, I want to write what’s in my heart– not follow a fleeting trend for the sweet $$$$.
Trends come and go. Have fun writing and quit making yourself miserable chasing trends! The money will come with hard work.
2. Oh, it’s self-published. So not really published, then.
Yeah, that self-published book that hundreds of people have read is not really there. Just go ahead and ignore that 😑 LoL! This one is often heard by indie authors like myself, who’ve not yet found the world of traditional publishing alluring enough to try.
The publishing scene has shifted, and now there’s several reputable self-publishing avenues to try.
And if you worked hard to self-publish your book, you should be proud of yourself! I am proud of you!
Don’t listen to people who feel that a publisher makes you “legit.” It’s your readers that matter, not a publishing house.
3. Has anyone other than your family read it?
First of all, as someone without a family since age 16, let me tell you– if you have supportive family that reads and reviews your books, that is REALLY GREAT! Don’t let anyone minimize that blessing in your life.
Supportive family is often everyone’s first audience.
It is super-normal for family to become your beta readers, your editors, and your first fans. I’m not seeing what’s wrong with that 🤔
Stephen King has spoken about his wife being his first editor/reader on his book On Writing. I assure you, it’s normal! (And you’re blessed!)
4. You can write the next Harry Potter and be set for life.
I really dislike when people use JK Rowling and Oprah as examples. How many Harry Potters do you know? How many Oprahs are there? Exactly. Just-ONE. So, what does that tell you??
The instant-hit book is a wonderful thought, but as realistic as becoming a rock star.
I mean, if that’s your aim, I hope you achieve it! But if your first (or second, or third) book does “only okay,” that’s actually a good start.
How it works for most authors (for most fields and careers, actually) is lots of practice, lots of work, and success over time. Plus, do you really want to be a one-hit wonder? Don’t you enjoy writing novels?
So yeah, write on 🙂
What have you heard that makes you cringe all over? Share in the comments! 😂
Take care my friends,
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